The Law Of Attraction

Goals for 2015

I do not set new year’s resolutions, I set goals. Goals to improve certain areas of my life, i.e. health, wealth and happiness…

I read an interesting article from Forbes about setting and successfully meeting goals. The article reiterated something I was told in college, “Writing down your goals, sharing them with friends, and sending your friends regular updates about your progress can boost your chances of succeeding.”

So, this year I thought I would share a few of my goals with you!

  1. Complete dollhouse wiring, construction and painting.

In 2002 I received an “easy” DIY dollhouse kit for my birthday. For years I had admired these beautiful, fancy, detailed dollhouses resting high up on the shelves in Hobby Lobby… Finally I convinced my parents that was all I wanted (or would ever want, at the time at least). Fast forward to 2014 and it has barely been touched, it is still snuggly, unassembled, in its box under my bed at home. This year that is going to change. I have expensive taste and miniature furniture is not exactly cheap so my goal is simply to complete construction, not furnishing.

  1. Learn to play chess.

I have always loved games, much to the dismay of my family… I have been interested in learning to play chess for quite some time now, but it was mentioned quite a lot in a book series I read last year and that is what motivated me to make it a goal for this year.

  1. Read more books than last year. (I read 35 books in 2014 [the goal for that was 30] so this year I am aiming for a minimum of 36 books.)

I was dyslexic and reading was never fun for me as a child. I learned coping strategies that got me through school and university and now I love reading. Correction: I love reading what I want to read. The goal of 30 books I set for myself last year was reaching far, but I was ecstatic when I not only met that goal but surpassed it! So this year I am pushing myself even further. Look forward to my book report next year.

  1. Master a minimum of 6 songs on the piano.

Last year I wrote a post about how I was returning to the piano after years away and that I would finally teach myself the left hand. I am very pleased to share that I memorized “Edelweiss” (from The Sound of Music), “Can You Feel The Love Tonight” (from The Lion King) and my favorite Christmas song, “The Little Drummer Boy”.  Last week I loaded up on sheet music for some of my favorite songs at Half Price Books (“OH, LOOK! The complete Backstreet Boys Millennium album! Oh and some Jimmy Buffett songs too!” I told you I have an eclectic taste in music). The bad part was I did not examine the difficulty of said sheet music before purchasing it. I am ok with that though, it will be an added challenge. I am eager to tackle these songs!

  1. Be positive.

Being positive is very important to a healthy, happy life. After reading The Secret last year I realized that my tendency to bogged down in the day to day “bad” things had grown deeper than I ever should have let it… There is always a silver lining; there is always another side of the coin. After all, “What you appreciate and give thanks for will increase in your life.” –Sanaya Romen.


A Year in Books (2014)

[My alternative title for this post was, “My Longest Blog Post Ever”.]

 One of my goals for 2014 was to read 30 books. I did it! And then some!
1 year. 35 books. 9,811 pages. Roughly 2,774,499 words.

01-02-15 Graphic

  1. Kate: The Future Queen (Katie Nicholl)
    I adore Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge so for Christmas last year I received two different biographies on the former Ms. Middleton.  This one had a good deal of information about Kate’s childhood.  I was excited to learn that the Duchess and I have several things in common.
  2. SiCology 101 (Si Robertson)
    I read Phil Robertson’s book Happy, Happy, Happy last year and I got this book as a Christmas present for my Dad.  He had finished reading it before Christmas vacation was over and he suggested I read it.  I had already started reading my own present so I waited until this year to read his.  I enjoyed this book. It is an easy and humorous read.
  3. I Am John Galt:Today’s Heroic Innovators Building the World and the Villainous Parasites Destroying It (Donald Luskin, Andrew Greta)
    I enjoyed reading Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand, and I have liked (and critiqued) the Atlas Shrugged movies (Part I, Part II and Part III) and, the title of this book caught my eye.  After reading this book I passed it on to my Dad and we had lively conversations about it later.  It takes characters from Rand’s books and finds modern versions of those individuals and supports why they chose this person as the embodiment of that character.  It has a businessy theme, but I recommend it to any Rand or Atlas Shrugged fan.
  4. Kate: A Biography (Marcia Moody)
    I enjoyed this biography about the Duchess as well.  This one focused a little more on the romance that William and Kate shared for years before the wedding of the century, what Kate did after university and it also gave “updates”, if you will, about what was going on in Prince William’s life at the same time Kate was growing up.
  5. Yesterday, Today and Forever (Maria von Trapp)
    This book was very interesting.  It discussed how Maria and George von Trapp taught their children about God.  It made me think of certain things in a new way. I enjoyed this book and passed it on to my mom who also enjoyed it and we had interesting conversations about it.
  6. She’s All That (Kirstin Billerbeck)
    This one I read on recommendation from my sister.  This is the first of a three part series called “The Spa Girls”.  It is classified as Christian Chick Lit.  I had read four books by Kirsten Billerbeck in 2013 and I really like her writing style.  This book focuses on Lily, a fashion designer with two best friends and a funny grandmother. It follows Lily through the ups and downs she faces as she makes a huge career change.
  7. A Girl’s Best Friend (Kirstin Billerbeck)
    This is the second book in the “Spa Girls” series.  It follows Morgan, a diamond heiress, through her troubled relationship with her father, legal troubles and finding love.
  8. Cool, Calm and Adjusted (Kirstin Billerbeck)
    This is the last book in the “Spa Girls” series.  This one follows Poppy, a chiropractor, as she deals with being the only one of her friends without a boyfriend, she also runs into a problem with the lease on her office space. I enjoyed all of the books in this series, but I think this one might be my favorite.
  9. The Hobbit (J.R.R. Tolkien)
    I have been a fan of The Lord of the Rings since the movies came out, but I was always a little curious about the details of how Bilbo ended up with the ring.  This book tells you, and it is way better than the movies.
  10. I am That Girl: How to Speak Your Truth, Discover Your Purpose, and #bethatgirl (Alexis Jones)
    This book is a must read for all girls who might need a little help figuring out what it is you want/are meant to do with your life.  I still am not sure of my purpose but Alexis makes you excited to discover it.  Alexis tells about her life and how she came to be the founder of I AM THAT GIRL, “A global movement inspiring girls…”
  11. The Happiness Project (Gretchen Rubin)
    I liked and disliked this book.  This book had been on my shelf for a couple of years and in January I had suggested that my family all read and then discuss it as a sort of book study, because who doesn’t want to be happier right?! We all agreed that we deserve to be happier than we currently are.  We also agreed that perhaps we ought to try our own (drastically) modified version of the happiness project. But mostly we ended up discussing the author of this book. In theory a happiness project of sorts is good, but we all disagreed with the author’s implementation (and some of her comments). I suggest if you want to partake in a project to boost your happiness gather information from blogs, etc. You do not NEED this book.
  12. LOTR: The Fellowship of the Ring (J.R.R. Tolkien)
    As I said under The Hobbit I really liked the Lord of the Rings movies when they came out, and I always wanted to read the books but never got around to it, until now. I really liked this book. As usual, the books are way better than the movies. For the sake of time, I’m sure, so much is left out of the movies. It all makes more sense in the book.
  13. LOTR: The Two Towers (J.R.R. Tolkien)
    I think this might have been my favorite book of the trilogy. There was a very powerful scene, which I still find myself thinking about now, that had been left out of the movie. It is so much better than the movie (this was my least favorite of the three movies).
  14. LOTR: The Return of the King (J.R.R. Tolkien)
    Again, so much better than the movie…  The book really explains the importance of the return of the king so much better than the movie. Also, the ending is slightly different from the movie. I watched each of the movies after I finished each book and I saw subtle thing in the background that were mentioned in the book but not really addressed in the film but I also noticed all of the things the movie got “wrong”, i.e. left out scenes, changes in the way things were done, who said what, etc. I highly recommend the Lord of the Rings book trilogy.
  15. Fight Club (Chuck Palahniuk)
    Again the book is better than the movie, and it has a completely different ending. It was a quick read. I enjoyed reading it; it was weird, but interesting from a psychological and sociological perspective.
  16. Split Ends (Kirstin Billerbeck)
    This was another recommendation from my sister. Like the other seven Billerbeck books I liked this one. It too is written in first person, which make it fun to read. This one follows Sarah Claire as she takes a leap from Wyoming to L.A. and struggles with her new life, and its requirements, and her faith and standards.
  17. I Was Told There’d Be Cake (Sloane Crosley)
    This book is a collection of amusing essays. It is a short and easy read; several times I caught myself laughing as I read Sloane’s humorous thoughts. If you are looking for a short and funny read on the beach for the summer, this is a good one.
  18. Be A Direct Selling Superstar (Mary Christensen)
    I read this book because I am an Independent Jamberry Consultant and I was looking for information on how to make the direct selling business work for me.  I found this book very informational, but also entertaining. (I also read The Skinny on Direct Selling: Your First 100 Days (Randell) but I did not count it in my 30 books this year because it is super short, but a great read for those considering a direct sales opportunity.)
  19. The Ultimate Guide To Blogging (Mike Fishbein)
    This book was a very short and easy read (I finished it in one day) with some good information for anyone considering blogging, however, I am not sure I would call it the ULTIMATE guide to blogging…
  20. The Secret (Rhonda Byrne)
    My family decided to read this book as another book study. It is a very interesting read about rewiring how you think, getting what you want and being who you want. (I wrote a whole post about this book earlier, you can read it here for more details.)
  21. Dream More (Dolly Parton)
    I love Dolly and this book is full of her wisdom. It is a quick and easy read but full of poignant thoughts and funny quips.
  22. Three Blind Mice (Agatha Christie)
    An interesting murder mystery followed by several shorter whodunits featuring Ms. Marple and Hercule Peroit.
  23. The Story of the Trapp Family Singers (Maria Trapp)
    I loved this book and passed it on to my mother to read as well. The Academy Award Winning film The Sound of Music was based on this book.  The von Trapp family’s faith through all their struggles and success is so inspiring. This book also had some amusing aspects, like when the Austrian family was learning to speak English on their way to America. I wrote a post about this book earlier, for more information about it click here.)
  24. Unwind (Michael Opin and Sam Braken)
    This book presents a stress management philosophy based on Dr. Stephen Covey’s book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It also presents information about how stress effects the human body and that we were not designed to cope with the stress causing hormone, adrenaline, for extended periods of time, just long enough to fight or flee.
  25. I’ve Never Been to Vegas But My Luggage Has (Mandy Hale)
    I loved this book! Mandy Hale has a very relatable story with unique anecdotes all written in a very conversational, friendly way. Her blog, twitter account and book about being single and using that time as to know yourself, God and His plan for you are inspirational. As I read I was excited that, like the Duchess of Cambridge, Mandy/The Single Woman and I had several things in common. I highly recommend this book to all ladies – single, in a relationship or married. Her story is inspiring, humorous at times and thought provoking about life and your relationship with God.
  26. A Cold Dish (Craig Johnson)
  27. Death Without Company (Craig Johnson)
  28. Kindness Goes Unpunished (Craig Johnson)
  29. Another Man’s Moccasins (Craig Johnson)
  30. The Dark Horse (Craig Johnson)
  31. Junkyard Dogs (Craig Johnson)
  32. Hell Is Empty (Craig Johnson)
  33. As The Crow Flies (Craig Johnson)
  34. A Serpent’s Tooth (Craig Johnson)
  35. Any Other Name (Craig Johnson)
    I love the Walt Longmire series! I first loved A&E’s show “Longmire” (now on Netflix!) then discovered its basis, Craig Johnson’s well written western/mystery series. It is written in first person, which makes for a great mystery novel (when you are the sheriff) and has very interesting characters from the wise and stoic Henry, to the tough Sheriff Longmire and his foul mouthed deputy, Vic. No two books in the series are the same; with surprise endings, endearing characters and plots that build, I highly recommend this series to all who enjoy curling up with a good mystery. (I already have his new book, Dry Bones [which will be released in May] on my list of “To Be Read in 2015” list.)

Positive Outcomes Only

Lately I have been fighting with a green eyed monster, and not just because Halloween is around the corner… Last week I helped my sister move into her very first house (she’s a property owner now and I must say that is pretty cool). In August she started an awesome new job that required her to relocate within the Great State and instead of throwing money away on a rental she decided to buy a house. The point of all this is that she is off on an exciting new adventure and I am terribly jealous. I am so happy for her and that everything seems to be going well with everyone I know. I cannot log onto Facebook without seeing wedding pictures, a status update that so-and-so are now engaged… The problem is that lately I have been struggling with the fact that my life is not the way I thought it would be at this point in my life.

It is not that I am not thankful for all that I have been blessed with, because I am truly blessed by God and deeply grateful. I think the problem is EXPECTATION. Over this past summer I read the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne. When I read it I was eager to immediately apply the law of attraction and create a life where I would enjoy every moment (I even wrote one of my first blog posts about the book). However when I did not immediately manifest the things I believed I would, I went back to my “stinkin’ thinkin’”. The Secret seemed to be working for people I knew but I had yet to win the lottery, drop any dress sizes, meet my future husband, or get my dream job. I let these “setbacks” poison my thinking. Each time I would try a positive “I am” statement my mind would punctuate that statement with a nasty, “YEAH RIGHT!”

My first semester of my freshman year at university I was the happiest I have been in a long time. I had left behind a toxic high school relationship, made some great new friends, I was healthy, I was making great grades and having a fantastic time on my own learning and doing new things. I adopted a something-went-bad-well-there-is-nothing-I-can-do-about-it-now attitude. If I did not do as well on my sociology exam as I had wanted I would not let it get me down… I would simply tell myself, “There’s no sense in worrying about it now, learn from it and do better next time.” I looked at that time as a new adventure. Yes, it had its ups and downs but I still think fondly of those first couple of months months.

I have decided I need to look at everyday as an adventure. I don’t  need to physically relocate to live in the mental state I was happily residing in back at university. I need to remember that while this might not be where I though I would be in life at this point I never imagined I would own my own business when I was twenty-two, that I would get to be creative everyday, the depths of my frugality or that just ninety-four days after launching a blog that I would have twenty four followers interested in what I have to say.  Thank you! While I am my own worst enemy I need to be my own greatest champion too, and remember that my life is good.

Focus on positive outcomes only this weekend. Have you had any experiences with situations like this in your own lives? Have you had any luck applying the Law of Attraction; do you have any tips for maintaining a positive outlook on life?

Employing “The Secret” – Affirmations Jar

After reading The Secret, I have been working very hard to apply the concepts and change my negative (previously seen as realistic) default settings. I have created a vision board (both a physical one that is now hung on my wall and a secret one on Pinterest). Lately, I have noticed that affirmations are a hot way people are harnessing the power of the Law of Attraction.

I sat down and typed up 100+ affirmations, printed them out and cut them apart and folded the sentence strips. I then cleaned out an old candle jar and put the affirmations in it. The idea is that each day I will shake up the jar and draw out a single slip; then meditate on that one affirmation for the whole day.

Affirmations Jar For Blog

“The Secret”

My family decided to read this book as a “book study”.  I love the way this book made me think about my thinking.  This book was a topic of great conversations.  What is great about our family book club is that everyone reads the same book a little differently; then we talk about our various views.

The Secret shows you how you can, “Have, be, or do anything you want.”  The Secret/the Law of Attraction is common sense in that, “like attracts like.” I really wish I had read this book years ago!

What are some books you wish you had read long before you got around to reading them?